A few days back, I had an opportunity to meet my friend. She got married pretty early, so her daughters are grown up. They are seventeen years old. They were so efficient and loving. They supported in serving and they cleaned up. They also were very polite. They were not misbehaving. Now, I understand, that you have to be a very dedicated mother to raise such daughters. So I asked her, how did she manage that!
She smiled that it was not easy. Everyone thought I was so strict. I am an extremely loving mother. I have been there on their every step. When they got hurt, I hugged them and rubbed their feet. But I was very particular about what all had to be done. Sometimes, they did not like it but they never hated me. They woke up early, they cleaned up their things, they took their shower before anything else, they ate healthily, they read their books and also, and they helped where ever they could, even the strangers. They had to clean up even if they were tired and they had to sit with guests and greet them. They were loved but not pampered. They had to respect their elders. And the values, the discipline, and the hard work continue.
See it’s like, if you want to make a tea, you start adding the tea ingredients from the beginning of preparation and then you get a tea from the cup. You would get whatever you are preparing. If you prepare something else, pour in something else and then you expect something else, it is not possible. And you dig the ground, you do not prune the flowers. Flowers need to be bloomed on their own.
I understand her and I respect her. And yes, we all need to train our children for everything we want them to be.
