Recently I went our for dinner and met a couple. They looked so happy together and they were laughing and celebrating. So I asked them, if they would like to share the secret. The lady said that one year back we set three common goals and we have achieved now. We decided to work on body weight and loose it. We decided to escalate family income which means our income together and a big international holiday. So now, when we have booked our tickets, we have lost weight and we have reached to our income milestone, we are celebrating here. We are laughing over our weak moments. When one used to want to eat something unhealthy and how another one stopped, how we pushed each other to work and then support for late night work schedules and everything. It has been such a journey. Somehow, now, we trust each other more, we feel more supported and we feel more in sync with each other. We had so many things to talk. We had less things to fight as our focus had shifted to common goals rather than fighting over individual needs and here we are.
It was so beautiful and intoxicating to talk to them. But yes, I learned a new thing about the relationship. If we have to keep the spark alive, if we have to strengthen the relationship, we need to keep doing things for each other. If we just keep walking on own path, there will be ego clashes and we will definitely have more differences. If we set goals for one and we expect the other one to only support that also will not be possible eventually. But if it’s common goal, we will be on a new journey together. We will find reasons again. We will reach to a new level of relationship.
