Be happy for others too
Always happy when you get bigger pie than your brother? Happier when you got promotion and your colleague did not get? Of course you should be, you have a reason to celebrate and you must. What about your brother who got the smaller pie? What about your colleague who did not get promotion which he wanted too? Next time when your brother gets the bigger share and your colleague gets the promotion not you what do you do? You should be happy now too. This time for others. You can celebrate for them this time. It is a tough thing especially when you do not have enough reasons to be happy for yourself. However, as I mentioned happiness is a state of mind and you choose to be happy if you want to be happy. So actually you can always be happy and you do not have to hunt for it. You need to be happy for people around you. You need to be happy for what they have achieved. Jealousy should not have any space as it just gives you negative feelings. It makes you loose your current state of happiness and bother you for what you do not have. When you see your colleague getting promoted, you can be happy for them and promise yourself to work harder to get what you thrive for. Of your brother gets bigger share you can be happy for him as he is happy. Don’t you feel happy when people around you are happy? You should accept their success with equal enthusiasm.
Let’s take it other way, you are not happy, you are envious now what do you get? You feel bad for yourself, you feel bad for other person who is successful, you start snapping at people to handle your aggression or if it is internal you hurt yourself, so what did you get by being not happy for others? You actually ended up being worse and you spoil your relations also as whatever is inside your heart will come out some day. This way any way you raise more blockades for your success and happiness. So which situation is better? You become a part of others success and be truly happy for them promising yourself of achieving higher next time or you feel bad for yourself and others and spoil your relations blocking your progress and happiness?
I would say”
“Being not happy for others just erodes your happiness further”
