Sometimes I feel, we really kill our relationships everyday. How?
We either do not nurture them, let them grow like a weed or die
Or we add so much poison of ego into them that they die.
Thousands of stories and cases where the relationships have died or are just surviving because they were not nurtured.
A girl got married into a joint family and on the first day itself, she was told that she had to support the family financially by her husband. She kept doing whatever she could do and still she only heard complaints about herself. She would only hear what she could not do as per their expectation. She reached to a point where she started staying ill and still she kept doing and heard bad things about herself. Finally she took a decision, I am not doing anything for anyone and she asked her husband for a separation. Her husband requested to continue the relationship whether she does anything or not and after one month, not a single apology, he opened himself saying, I do not appreciate that you are not doing anything for my family. The girl was shattered and her faith was lifted from her relationship. She felt that where was she investing her emotions? He still is unable to see her pain and he would never be able to. She slipped into further depression and her health was falling apart. They were together under a roof but as strangers.
I do not need to dissect this. Whatever is there is in front of our eyes. So what shall we do?
We really need to see and appreciate what the other person is doing.
We need to accept our parts without accusing or blaming.
We need to give assurances and reassurances that we are together
We need to take a stand for each other
We need to hold each other in their time of pain rather than leaving them alone to handle
We need to support each other with love rather than ego (where we oblige that yes I have done this for you)
Relationships are important and we need to nurture them. We need to nurture them everyday. If we will not, we will not have a supporting relationship. Choice is ours.
