A mother is always on her toes. Whatever we do, I always feel it’s never enough. You want your child to be healthiest, most loving, most intelligent, you want to do everything and then you want your child to be best. But then, you have to draw a line because we cannot do everything. So you need to pick up few things which are most important for you and then what’s working for you.
Being a mother of twins, I am having more experiences with kids everyday. I know how one looks at me when she gets hurt. She just wants to come and hide inside me and that just moves me till my soul depth. I have seen how one wants to hide inside me when she wants to possess me. hahahha..and I let her do that! How one wants to hold my arm cloth while going to sleep (I think she is making sure that I am around). How the younger one wants to see me when she opens her eyes. How one wants to hug and how another one wants to play all the time with me. It’s never ending, I can keep writing. But lately I realized few things, I was doing everything but talking less, this I realized when we were travelling and they were running off. We expect them to stay by our side and at home, we do not want them to stick to us. How would they know, they are supposed to stick by our side when we are out. So I had to come and tell them every night before going to bed and to my surprise, next time they followed. Even if they are small, then I realized how important it is to talk to them. We think they do not understand as they are small because we do not understand what they are talking. However, they do understand.
Then next thing, I learned was, it is important for them also to talk to you when they want. Even if you do not understand, just let them talk and encourage them to talk. Do not always just try to teach, or try to talk, make an effort that they are talking to too. listen to them and be there.
I have been talking to so many mothers of the children of all age groups for years and they all are exhausted. they have been doing everything still that part is missing where the child comes and confides. Give them space, be available. Believe me, if the food is prepared little late or less tasty it is ok, if the house is not cleaned properly it is ok, even if people are judging you on the mis management of house, it is ok, if they are getting little less marks in school, it’s ok, but losing the bond with your child is not ok. Be there, talk to them, let them talk to you, and then you will nurture the most loving bond with them.
