She always argued a lot. Everyone was scared of her. Her mother always tried explaining to her that if she would be ready to argue at every small drop of a hat, she would lose out on people. Eventually, no one would like to talk to her. She argued back saying, do you think, I am weak? One day a maid came in who was filled in by another one. The maid started shouting and when she was done, the mother asked patiently, you have working with me for 3 years, decide for yourself. The maid was sorry and left. The daughter was watching it. She said, why you did not explain to her that it was not you. Why you did not say anything. She would think this and that. The mother smiled and said,
When I listened to her, I had to keep my patience and I had to practice love to solve the situation. It made me stronger, not weaker. Not arguing with someone, does not make me weak, it in fact increases my strength as I practice patience more. I learn to forgive more.
Then, I respect myself and I respect the other person. The maid may not have understood the meaning of respect, I respect humanity. She came in anger and if I add to that, she would be more miserable. I had to help her in solving it. By not getting into the argument, I respected myself and I respected her more. We need to know, the important things, and where we need to invest our energy. If it’s worth it or not. It’s not about the maid. But is it worth getting into an argument, with someone, who has been filled up by some petty mind? If I do that, am I not stepping down to the level of that petty mind?
We need to practice patience and self control and that makes us stronger not weaker.
