All this time, we have been trained on giving. We must give and that too with a thought process that in order to receive. But we have not been trained on how to receive. The problem is we do not know how to receive so we do not know how to give also. Here are the few examples:
1. I do not like asking help from anyone
2. We like compliments but we do not know how to accept them gracefully and gratefully
3. If someone offers us something we do not like to accept.
4. We feel so bad (Somewhere ego hurts) if we are told you asked for this help.
5. We do not allow others to give us (Someone wants to pay our bill, even if there is a deep desire that he/she should pay, we try to express that we do not want that) It is a fake expression.
6. We try to put a price tag on someone’s help
There are many incidences in which we have failed to receive. Now when we do not how to receive what happens:
We fail to give
We fail to honor what others are asking from us
We fail to be grateful for what we are receiving without asking (We hear so many times, you got so much without asking for, that is why you do not value)
So what shall we do:
1. Accept compliments freely, gracefully and learn to give also. If someone says, you have done a good job be thankful. Learn to give similar compliments to others. You look beautiful!
2. In time of need do not hesitate from asking. Help is always near by. We just have to ask for it. It is not necessary in terms of money. It can be in terms of advise, someone offering emotional support etc. Simply ask for it. If you cannot ask, atleast ask God, please send someone to help me and then be grateful for it.
3. Do not equate things with money. There was a person walking in scorching heat. He found a sleeping Rickashaw puller and he woke him up. The rickshaw puller denied as it was hot and he was sleeping. The gentleman requested and offered extra money. He agreed. While getting down, the gentleman spoke bad words saying he overcharged him. ( What guarantees that he would have found that carriage? Just because he is paid does not mean we ignore his efforts to drop him). Be grateful when you get help even when it is paid. (Small example, we become bossy towards domestic maids but how do we feel when they do not turn up for a day)
4. When we ask without ego, we know how to give without ego. We also would know, when someone needs help. So we would be more ready to help. So ask with a grateful heart.
Without learning to receive, we would always have problem in giving too. They go hand in hand. Infact our body represents 50% of each. Left side represents receiving and right side represents giving. A person who is having problem in receiving (I do not like taking things from anyone, I would do things myself) would always have more problems in left side. A person stingy and egoistic in giving would have problems in right side. So we need to maintain a free flow.
So whatever you need ask for it. Be it love, money, health. Be ready and receive with a grateful heart.
