I cannot live without you….I cannot live without my children…I cannot live without this and that and when we have them we have expectations from them..and the biggest attachment is with self…I, Me , Myself..all the ego..pride everything comes from the attachment with the self…
We depend on many things in life and because of dependence we feel insecure, we feel how would we survive if we are deprived of that and insecurities start developing because of that and this leads to suffering..suffering is nothing, it is just a state of your mind. If you decide you cannot live without this thing or this person you cant and then you suffer and when you decide it does not matter, you stop suffering. Most of the times when we part with loved ones either because of the death or a separation we suffer because we are attached and we decide not to suffer after we are left with no choice. So we suffer in both the cases, if we have them then we have insecurities and if we don’t have them we have the pain of not having them. So attachment leads to suffering in both the conditions. I never advocate going to an exile, we ultimately have to live here…so we shd start detaching our self here to reduce suffering…for that also you need to connect with self..and connecting with self does not mean you are attached to self because that again is an attachment and leads to falseness. Connecting with the self means, you understand self, where you connect with the eternal existence and then your self would extend to this existence. Once that duality will dissolve, you will understand real self. After that it will not matter what you have, what you do not..where you are…you can live your live happily anywhere. There wouldn’t be a difference between I and you also and then you will be able to dissolve truly.
