Few days back I met a girl. She said that she spends her money in self development a lot. She visits places which she loves, she wears what she likes, she give to whom so ever she likes and she feels she is the happiest person. Very rarely I have come across such free souls and I asked for the reason. She said that she got divorced few years back. She gave whatever she earned to her husband. He had started physically abusing her in the later years of her marriage. She got divorced and she went into such an extreme depression that she was asked to leave from her job. She realized all these years, she had spent her entire energy on her job and husband and they left her. She was left on zero and then she realized she had herself. If she was alive she could do anything again. She did not care how she looked but now she wanted to look her best. She did not even know if she wanted to go some where. All the time she thought about her husband and where he would like to go. She did not care what she liked eating, she always cooked as per her husband’s desire. But no more. She wanted to know what it was like to eat for herself, what it was like to look good, what it was like to visit place of her choice, what it was like to live for herself. She did work after that, but did the work which gave her satisfaction and happiness. She realized that after discovering herself, she found new love, which was self love and she was happiest.
Was she selfish? Who is not. When someone says, you are selfish, I wonder who is more. The person who is saying you are selfish wants the other person also to serve himself. So he is double selfish! Anyway, that’s not the point. The point is how can we care of others, if we are not cared. Self love is the first step of loving anyone else too. We can love unconditionally only when we are loved and cared for. If we depend on others for that, we would always get more and more hurt. So need to start doing ourselves first. So take care of yourself. Do what gives you happiness. Live your life out of love rather than obligation. Do care for people but be in a position to do that. You cannot give positive by going into negative.
Tell yourself I am love, I love, I am loved. i am happy, I am beautiful. I am taken care of. God is taking care of me. i am never alone. Be you, be happy.
