One couple came for discussion. The wife complained that if anyone gives him any praises, my husband is ready to do anything for him/her. he has lost so much money in the business also because of this. She shared that because people talk good and I do not, he wouldn’t look at me. The man was arguing and defending himself. After listening to him for one hour, I asked him, it’s ok if you do this. Do you like it in yourself and he said no. But then came another argument, who does not like praises or attention? Yes, everyone likes it, but people using you for that is not that good. So does that happen? And he accepted. So what is the solution? We need to be aware of our own demons so that we can learn to live above them. So he needs to accept and work accordingly. The second thing, he also needs to know, if someone is not praising him, and is genuine to him like his wife, not to ignore that person. he could do that when he could accept that.
One lady was always lying. She was a kind of compulsive liar. Because of her this habit, her husband was divorcing her. She was lying on every small thing. As small as, what time did you wake up. To prove that she was a good house wife, she would say, one hour early time. But it was not needed. If someone came to meet her, even her friend, she would deny and later on it would come out. If she went to the market, she would lie that she had gone to meet a neighbor. Now, the kids were also picking up the same thing. So he did not want to be with her. She did not want to leave him as she loved him. So why did she lie? She accepted that she lies and then why did she lie. Reluctantly she accepted that she wanted to make a good impression always, and she wanted things her way, so she started lying. Was it required?
So she was aware, and she was also aware that what was at stake. So she started working on that.
We all ahve demons. The problems happen, when we do not accept own dark side. We need to accept, so that we can learn to live above them. So that we can be better.
