They had everything in life. Money, commitment, big house and they never fought. However, after 27 years of marriage, they divorced and everyone wondered why. Because they had never seen them fighting. The lady answered they did not have love. Because of the absence of love, she never felt happy. Every day, she got up with a thought of what all had to be done that day. She never woke up with a thought of what will be done for her, where will she go for a holiday, if her husband held her hand if she laughed with him if she felt cared for, and she never laughed or smiled. She worked like a machine and that’s why she walked out in the search of happiness.
He always treated her badly, he always expected lots of things from her like she would take care of everyone, she would do all the house chores, she would raise kids and everything else. After 15 years, they had so many fights, and they separated. When he came to me, I asked him, what did you give her? You wanted so many things but what did you give in return? Did you buy a gift for her, did you take her to the place of her choice, did you ever ask her how she was feeling, did you express your gratitude that how grateful you are to have her and the answer to every question was, no answer. He just could say one thing, she had everything, what else I could give her and the answer is love.
I meet so many couples who wonder, even after doing everything, their relationship is not surviving, and the answer is the most important ingredient in this is love and if that is missing, a relationship cannot survive whether the woman is economically independent or not. So many times, people blame economic independence of women but it is not the reason. The reason is lack of love. If there is love in the relationship, it will sail through everything and it will come out more and more beautiful. Bring in love and everything will be fine. We bring in ego and it will destry everything.
