Generally whatever we have inside us, we same things in others. A thief thinks everyone else is also a thief, a person who lies thinks everyone else is a liar too and a person who is innocent will trust everyone else and thinks that everyone is an innocent person. We can see only what we have inside. A person who is insecure about himself, finds faults in others as he knows his own faults. He finds same faults in others which he has. We can only be aware of ourselves not anyone else and that is why we see same things in others. But the irony is we ignore our own faults but we are very vocal about others faults. Ding Dong…ego at work here because we want to tell ourselves that we are better than others. Don’t fool yourself. Few days back, a girl came to me for counselling who was in blaming mode. She was blaming her family for not giving her conducive environment to grow, her friends and for that she said, I don’t have many friends and to her colleagues. She said, who so ever meets her, always tries using her and that is why now she is being rude to people and she doesn’t like anyone. I asked her if she likes herself and she was startled. She did not, she was being rude to herself. She herself was so insecure about herself that anyone if came to her for small help, she felt that person is using her and inside herself, she always wanted to take benefit out of everyone, that how can she grow up further in life using those. Now this growth was very superficial as deep down she was only falling further. To feel that this world is a better place, she has to clean her inside and after that she could find love in people. I meet so many people who find same fault in others which they are suffering from. So always be aware, what you see in others actually is a reflection of you.
