Few days back a lady called up and said that she had been married for 10 years and there are particular issues on which she always fight with her husband. She had told him many bad words and after all the fights and 10 years, she got to know few things. Now she realizes that it was never her husband’s fault but his family which happens many times in joint family system. But for last few days guilt is eating her up and what she should do?
I asked her to go and share everything with her husband, apologize and seek forgiveness. However, her ego was holding back and she also shared that she is scared that for rest of their lives he would keep taunting at her for this. It might be but it will be better than few things like:
1. Constant guilt
2. You would stop punishing yourself
3. Your relationship would improve and become more positive
4. Somewhere it would be an ointment on his wounds as well as he is tolerating everything for last 10 years for no fault of his
5. Eventually you both would respect this
She gathered courage and cleared out all her misunderstandings. He also broke down as he had been suffering for last 10 years without doing anything wrong. But their relationship improved and mutual respect also. Her trust in him also. It also helped her in forgiving many other issues also.
We all do mistakes and when we do them we do them without a thought. We take it as our birth right to do mistakes. The problem is we don’t gather enough courage to accept mistakes. Some ego, some guilt, some shame, many emotions come in between.
But believe me accepting own mistakes never makes us lesser, infact it makes us purer and better. It only increases our own value in own eyes.
So , if anyone here knows he has done something wrong, correct it. Life does not give an opportunity to correct things often.
