When she came to me, she had many complaints against her husband. She shared that her husband does not come back home every day on time. He would, come at 10 and straight away get into the bathroom. He would get fresh, eat dinner and directly go to sleep. So many times, she felt like watching a movie with him but he did not. But when we dug into detail, realized that she has a set of rules and everyone is supposed to follow them. So he used to come back home early and he would sit on the sofa to watch news, she would say, you have wrinkled the sofa. If he would sit on the bed, he would say, you have wrinkled the bed. If he touched the remote or anything before washing and wiping his hands, she would fight with him saying, he brought germs. So finally, he started coming home very late so that he did not have to sit anywhere. She got everything as per her but she also lost him and she was losing kids too.
His father had many debts and he always told his father how much of a failure his father had been. He told his father that he would be financially rich one day. He started earning well and then to become rich sooner than he could, he got involved with lots of negative elements. He wanted to prove to his father. One day he called up his father and begged for help. He asked his father if his father could help him in getting out of the rut he was stuck in.
This was refreshing. He married the lady of her dreams. But she had her own problems and he had her own problems. But they promised they would keep love first. Somehow, they knew the secret to love. When they were eighty years old, they were still holding hands and looking at each other like they just met. People around them made fun of them but secretly desired if they could have that kind of love. So when I asked them, they simply shared one thing, we always nurtured love. For us, we never let ego come in between. We were one and we always looked at everything as one.
Be it any relationship, it is up to us,what we are nurturing. If we are nurturing love, we would get love.
