She wanted to know what she could do that everything will resolve with her husband and they would get back to having a normal life.
I asked her if she loved her husband and she said yes. But what do you think all the time? If he loved her? If he cared for her, if yes then why he comes home late? If he loves her then why he supports his family? I asked her if she loved her family and yes. Then does it mean you do not love your husband? So instead of having doubts. Tell yourself how much love you both have shared and how much you love each other. First, she answered those questions and then she repeated them. In few days, he started spending more and more time with her. She wondered and asked him what did change? He said that earlier he was feeling so low when she was with him but something has changed. He feels so good when he is with her. Because her focus was on love, her energy started becoming more positive. He was feeling better with her so he wanted to spend more and more time with her.
His health was going down. His wife died two years back and he was blaming himself for everything. Maybe he should have spent more time with her, maybe he should have made her more laugh and many things. His guilt was making him feel low. I asked him, what all good things he had done for her? HE shared many. How he would have spent more time? Did he ignore her feelings or something and the answer was no. Would you have spent more time without compromising work? No. Then why are you guilty? Did you feel this guilt when she was alive? No. Then maybe you are feeling this guilt because you want to spend more time and you are unable to. So instead of focusing on what you could have done, focus on all that you could do and how much she loved you. Also, how grateful you are to have such a partner. In few days, his health started improving and he started feeling better.
One gentleman was having lots of problems in the job and with his boss also. He thought that his boss did not want him in the office. So the problems were increasing every day. He also had to shift his focus on the things he loved in the office rather than what was wrong. To his surprise, his relationship with boss also improved. He wondered was he himself creating problems with the boss? YES!
Focus on love and you will see how much your life improves.
