So my 3.5-year-old girl was crying because she wanted to have something and I did not want to give her that. This was becoming her usual behavior. It is very easy to judge that and say, she is getting into habit or she has a habit of crying when not given something. Though she knows mama will not give. But then I realized a few things:
- Am I kind to her in understanding her emotions?
- Have I taught her any other way of asking? Have I trained her that, instead of crying she can ask and ask again?
- If she is angry, have I taught her to be calm and understand?
- If someone else is angry, have I taught her to understand that? Am I training her to be kind? Am I kind enough with her?
Maybe yes and maybe no. Conscious parenting is never enough. I am trying my best but these questions made me wonder. So next time, this training started. Whenever she said something by crying out loud, I started listening. And understanding and make her understand her own emotions. And ask her, how we could handle that situation better. And was the result, she guided another child the same way. Not to mention, it was peace at home. Then she came and said, we should understand each other mama and help each other.
Apart from all these things, that work is always going on, how to talk to helping staff properly, how to help them, how to understand others emotions but little more kindness was needed. And this made her more kind towards others too.
Children are the most beautiful gift of God. They are also our guinea pigs. We can do all our goodness experiments. I hope we raise them with love and kindness and we would raise kind and loving individuals.
