“I always end up having conflicts” So you have conflicts or you create conflict? What do you mean? Our life is created by us. A peaceful mind will create a peaceful life. A conflicted mind will create a conflicted life. So if you have conflicts in your mind then how will you have peace in life.
How do you know I have conflicts in mind? Because you said you always end up having conflicts! Without having conflicts in mind, we will not create conflicts in life.
For example, you have an argument with your wife at home and then you leave for the office. You are already upset. So what would happen next? He shared that this happened and then he had an argument with someone on a red light, then he had an argument with a colleague in the office and he felt that today was one of the worst days. But why did the argument start with the wife? Well, she was going to her mother’s place and I did not want her to go. So the conflict started there. Because you had a conflict in mind, you ended up in conflict there. But why you did not want her to go?
My friend’s wife is always there. She never goes. HE always has everything ready at home. Why my wife is not doing this? Because she is not her. Is your friend comparing his wife with yours? Is he comparing his life with yours? Then if you are not him, how can your wife be like his wife? So do you compare other things? Then he accepted, yes, his work, position, car and in office his clothes, salary and everything.
So all the time, you are comparing?n YES! So how can you be peaceful? You need to stop comparing and then watch your day. You need to have a fast of thoughts! HE did that and did it again. He realized, he was less sarcastic, he argued less, he felt peaceful and then conflicts reduced. HE was blaming others all this while but then he realized, he was creating everything.
Can we consciously make a decision not to compare? Everyone is living own life and we can never have the same life. By comparing we are just disrespecting who we are.
So what shall we do?/
Find own gratitude and blessings.
Accept self as you are.
Love self as you are. Respect yourself and own life.
Respect your efforts.
