She was always shouting at others. Everyone tried staying away from her. So she decided to not shout. But everyone still stayed away from her. She would make friends but in sometime everything would fizzle out! She wondered what was wrong.
So when we started talking we realize that people were scared of her comments. She may pass on some personal comments which people did not like. So I asked her, how would she feel, if someone said those things to her. Now, to reach to the deeper thought process, we found a chain reaction. She had inferiority complexes. To handle her complexes, she would observe people quickly and while doing that, she would find the points where she would feel they had been lesser or weak. And because she was thinking like this all the time, she would end up speaking those things. Our mouth will utter what we think. We cannot hide much.
But why she needed to put others down? Because she was constantly comparing herself with others. She was always in a competition who was better. She always felt lesser and to make herself better, she always tried making others lesser. This inferiority complex came fro constant comparison. Furthermore, when she could not feel someone was lesser than her, she was jealous. Which made her a very negative person.
To overcome this, she had to stop comparing herself with everyone around. Because we can’t be better than everyone in everything.
She had to work on her own strengths, know her own strengths, and focus on what was good in her rather than what was she lacking in comparison with others. Once she was able to find her own strengths, she was able to see other’s strengths too. Now, she did not have energy which was pushing everyone away.
