Why did you choose an extramarital affair over your entire life? I did not want to be with my husband. He is very busy with his life and work.
Why did you choose to marry her? Because I was feeling lonely.
Why did you shift to a foreign land and decided to do a job here? I did not want to work under my father.
Why did you choose to do business? Because I did not want to do a job!
Why did you decide to have a child? Because I did not want my relationship to fall apart. I thought it should make some bridge. But did it? No, it increased!
I wish I had taken a divorce 20 years back. I would not have been stuck in a wrong marriage. But why you did not? Because I did not want a divorce!
So many times I meet people who are in a miserable situation, because they have taken a decision on the basis of what they do not want.
Now, what is the problem with that? The first problem is, we have not thought about what we want. So in that decision, because our entire focus is on what we do not want, we do not realize, if we are prepared for what we are getting into. Because we have not thought about that, we end up creating another what we do not want.
The second thing is like attracts like. Whatever our thought patterns are or our feeling patterns are, we create similar events that would create again the same feelings. Which means again the feeling would be what I do not want.
So whenever there is a decision to make, always think of what I want. And whatever you are choosing, ask yourself, if this is what I want and then decide. Life would be simpler and happier.
