One guy wanted to get married to a girl he loved but he wanted his parents to approve of it. They did not and after waiting for 10 years, he agreed to get married as per their choice. His relationship with his new wife was not a good one and he always blamed his parents for finding such a girl and not allowing him to be with his girl. One day finally his mother said, its your life, we had shown you the girl and you had agreed, we are not responsible for what’s happening between two of you. Then he wanted a divorce and again he had same condition that his parents had to agree and they did not. He could not divorce but as the relationship was not working out well, they could not live together also. So they started living in different rooms of same house. Again his mother said that as per us you are together under one roof and what you do after that we do not care, it’s your responsibility. He always wondered that who is to be blamed for such a situation of his life. As per his wife, he was to be blamed, as per his parents he was to be blamed but as per him his parents.
Does not matter, whom do we blame, the reality is, the person who is in the situation is going through everything. It’s he, who has to take charge of the situation. Even if he is able to blame it on others successfully, what would he get? That would be a mere ego satisfaction. Ultimately what would change the situation is that he takes a stand for himself and it exactly happened like that. When he took a stand, his life was peaceful.
Often we watch own life as a spectator and we blame other people and let them play the match of our lives. However, a spectator, has no role. If we really have to enjoy our lives, we need to get to the ground, take charge and accept own responsibility. It’s ultimately your life, you have to life it and you need to remember one more thing, you will not get this life again. So better live it, do not waste it blaming and living other’s lives.
