He went into depression as his wife divorced him for someone else. She told him that he was not good looking enough and he was unable to satisfy her in an intimate way. He did not deserve her. He really loved her and wondered what else he could have done to save the marriage. So he slipped into the mode where he was constantly finding faults in himself which was breaking his confidence further for everything. He was unable to take any business decision also and his health also started falling apart. He did not know if he could do things to stay healthy.
So I gave him my 3 years olds glasses which happened to be pink and I asked him, how does everything look like? HE started laughing and said that it’s pink. Why it is pink because you are looking at things from the pink glasses. So I have two girls and they both have their own favourites. One is pink girl and another is blue girl. The other one has blue collection. So now when he wore blue he felt everything was blue. Point made. When you see things from others glasses, they appear as per their color. They look like the way they wanted to see things not the way you are.
He looked at himself from the glasses of his ex wife. Ofcourse she needed reasons to prove that he was not good enough for her and she could leave without feeling guilty which she did. So she gave him some colorful glasses.
So what he was supposed to do? He sat and thought what all good things he had and he had done. He realized he was a good one. When he started feeling he was a good one, others also started feeling same.
Do not believe what others tell you and look down at yourself. Everyone will come with own perspective and judgement of you. Believe me we all are better than that and we all deserve better. Know who you are and believe in that.
