HE left her for someone else. After 10 years of marriage and 2 children, she felt that she was nowhere. She was going through over and over again that what wrong she might have done which pushed him away and fall for someone else. Her in laws did not make it better. They had no courage to accept that their own son or brother had done something bad. They said few things like you must not have taken care of him, you bossed him around, he was never happy with you and she started believing that. She started believing that she was a very bad wife which means she was a bad woman. In 10 years of married life, she was calculating all the wrong things she might have done like when she wanted to go out with him and he did not, how sometimes she had a head ache and she could not cook a good meal and many things like that.
But what was the reality? When she was pregnant and she delivered her first child, they had a gap in their physical intimacy. At that time, he started meeting other women! So was it her fault or someone else’s? As per me lots of extramarital affairs happen during that time, many couples sail through this also but many are unable to. But it nowhere means the woman has to be blamed. Somewhere when she needs all the help emotionally and mentally, she is being broken by society further saying it’s your fault!
In another opposite scenario, a girl chose a guy who was very good looking But later on she found out that he did not have enough money and he was struggling to settle financially. She was good looking herself and she met another guy who was very rich. So she found a list of 10 things which were wrong in their relationship and how unhappy they were together. The guy really got depressed but recovered eventually. After few years when they met, she shared that she broke up with him so that she could have a financially secure life. He wondered then why she could not accept this at that time? Well, then how would she look into the mirror?
Stop finding faults in yourself because of others behavior towards you. Know who you are, the good things you are doing and good things you can do. People comment on you, leave you, make you feel bad because of who they are and how they think. It has nothing to do with you! Love yourself, appreciate yourself, accept yourself. You are a beautiful creation of God and you are perfect. Nurture yourself and everyone around.
