One lady talked about her husband. She said that he is so good towards anyone who is not family. Everyone talks good about him. But at home, he is always very critical and does not even talk properly with anyone. She was not exaggerating. I realized whatever she was saying was true because when I met him, I felt the same things. The similar type of complaints I have heard from many.
In another scenario, one lady was diagnosed with cancer. Her husband helped her a lot during that time. She became irritated and she always took it out on husband. She always told him how would he know the pain she was going through when only she had cancer. Well, how would she know the pain of the person who is serving a cancer patient, is afraid that he would lose his life partner and still no one said a good word to him. Everyone was sympathizing with her only.
We all need to be compassionate. We all are trained to be compassionate towards roadside people, old people, orphan kids and so on. We are not trained to be compassionate towards own family members. Somewhere we are trained to take them for granted because its family.
Start seeing the other person’s perspective. Start seeing what the other person is going through. Do not take them for granted. Mom is cooking, and it is her job, does not mean she does not feel the heat while cooking in summers or she may not feel so well all the time everyday? The father is going to office but he may be tired, he may have some stress in office, kids may be playful all the time but they also have their own things to stress about. Offer your compassion for everyone so that kids learn it too.
Have a happy family, have a compassionate family.
