His father had an extramarital affair at the age of 60 and he was 30 at that time. He felt humiliated in front of his own wife and children. He did not know, how to ask his mother to calm down. But she looked more peaceful than him. he wondered how come she was so peaceful? Because it was her life partner who broke her trust. So he asked her. She told him that she has accepted the facts for right now. She was not trying to find faults in herself. She was not trying to find fault in others. She was not trying to think if situations would have been different in life and at home then he would not have gotten into an affair. Because the fact is, it did not depend on her or home. People have not gotten into affair even in worst conditions and people have gotten into such things even in better situations. It is solely our own discretion. Whatever everyone else is thinking, did not matter because whatever she was thinking mattered more. She has accepted things. She has to work on forgiveness but she has accepted. The way it is. She has accepted everyone’s opinion of her and their marriage too. She did not have to defend herself or fight herself in front of anyone. Whatever was there, she had to solve that with her husband. She also shared that she is already working on forgiving him. She knows that eventually, she had to forgive him even it is after 2 years. So why to waste two years of emotions and why not straightly jump to forgiveness.
Situations do come in life. Sometimes they are there in the past and sometimes we are dealing with them currently. So what do we do?
If it’s in the past, we need to know, nothing can be done. Nothing could have been made it better. It was supposed to happen the way it happened.
We cannot have a better past. What we can do is, we can give our best shot in the present.
We need to think, what can be done.
We need to realize whether we are focusing on the problem or the solution. When we think of the problem, the problem expands and when we think of the solution, solution expands. So when something happens, always think about how it can be solved.
Do not try to change things (That’s what takes maximum energy and emotions). Accept them and you would be peaceful. Now think, what’s next!
