One gentleman called up and wanted to meet. He said that he was very unhappy in his married life. He felt that God was very unfair to him. (God is never unfair). So I started listening to him. So he shared that, his wife has left him and he was unable to talk to his children also. So what’s the reason? I am sure right now it is a mess nut what brought all this on your family is the main thing to understand.
So he shared that, when his wife was pregnant, they started having problems and he started meeting other girl. He continued and some time back he broke up because that girl wanted to marry him. But now when he is back in the relationship, his wife found out and she has left him.
I gave him a glass made up of glass. And I broke it! He was wondering what was happening! I asked him, what would you do with this left over glass? It was still yours! He said that of-course we would throw it away. Why do not we keep it? It would hurt! So this is what has happened to your wife’s trust. It is broken so badly! it is shattered. It is hurting her when she is trying to keep it. So she is trying to stay away from it, hoping it would hurt her less.
Then I asked him if we could make a cup of tea together. I asked him to choose the condiments and he chose ginger. When we started drinking, I asked him what did it taste like and he said ofcourse ginger. But why it did not taste like cardamom or cinnamon? Because we did not add that into it. Exactly! Our life is like the same. We get what we have added. So before tasting it, we need to add what we wanted from it.
If we want our relationship to taste like full of trust, respect, love, understanding, then we need to add same thing into it. We need to give all waht we want to our partner.
