At the age of 24 he was a very angry person. He would abuse people and his family or anyone who would drop in. Everyone was scared of being around him. His parents were really worried. When he was small, he was treated very badly by his school friends. They bullied him, trolled him and everyone laughed at him. At that time, he felt that his parents did not support him emotionally. They never went to school to ask what was happening. Or they never asked him also, what he wanted. As per them, they wanted him to become very strong. But as per him, he was getting destroyed and same pattern continued in college.
He really had to work on his anger issues because it was not taking anywhere. No one was ready to hire him, no one was ready to be his friend and no one wanted to be in a relationship with him.
However, whenever he thought, he thought of many days in advance or in the past and he gave up before trying. He would think of many situations which had never happened, or might never happen in future and what if they would make him angry. The problem was he was creating so many situations in his mind that could occur and make him angry.
So apart from practicing forgiveness and many things, he decided to take a decision. No anger today and he focused on that day only. But that also did not help much. I would say his focus was on anger. So he focused on lot of love that day. So gradually, he started becoming loving. When it was one month, he felt very confident because he realized he could love. He could spend a day without getting angry.
So whenever you have important decision to make, have your vision clear but take one day at a time and you would follow it better.
