My friend was sitting with me for three hours. We had tea and then again had tea and even I had to get back to work. So I asked, aren’t you going home? He gave a grin which I did not like but it was mean.So he shared that his wife’s mood was furious. So he is waiting for her to settle down. HE then continued. He said that whenever she had a bad mood, he leaves her alone and when she is fine, she has processed her emotions, he would get back to her. This way he avoids conflicts. I was feeling furious. So I asked, so when she is at her best, you like her and do things for you and when she is at her worst, you just leave her. Doesn’t she need you more at that time? What if she does the same? When you are going through a rough patch in life, she just leaves you alone. What if she leaves you when you have financial problems and comes back when you are prospering? So for her best part you are there? And when she is cranky and needs you more to comfort her, she should lock herself in the closet? If a child is cranky and crying badly, do we leave that baby in the closet to settle down her emotions or do we comfort that baby more?
When we enter into relationships, we try to give our best, we try to express our best but we also need to know we have both the sides. We cannot leave one side behind. If we need to accept someone, we need to be prepared that we will have both the experiences. We cannot enter expecting all good. WE will have fights, we will have moments where we would feel it’s enough but we need to hold the rope tightly at that time.
If you really want your relationship to grow into a complete one, accept each others both good and bad. THat’s when the trueacceptance comes and
