One 25 years old boy came, who had been through a break up. He was so angry all the time that he could not handle it any more. He was taking it out on his parents and friends and everyone he was meeting. So when he first came, he said that he was getting angry on others because they were irritating him. What he did not realize was that, people would be people and they would act. Second thing, who decides how much angry we can get at them? Did they really deserve that treatment on any small dialogue they utter or small thing they do? How can everyone be perfect as per us? Everyone else is a trigger and bullet can be fired if there was a bullet inside. Our job is to keep it clean of the bullet.
So he realized that he had to keep himself peaceful and then he would be able to deal with everyone peacefully!
He started working on all his emotions one by one, peacefully and in few days he realized a load was lifted off his head. In that clarity he also realized that he had been unnecessarily blaming others. He did not take his responsibility fully and he was trying to pass the responsibility of his emotions onto others. If he can be peaceful now and treat everyone else better, he could do that earlier too. People were still same, he had changed.
We all need to understand this. We cannot blame others for how we feel. We cannot afford the luxury of letting others control our emotions because this is who we are. We are whatever we think and feel. If we let others decide what we think and how we feel, then we would always be others puppet. We need to take charge of how we feel.
