She was just 30 and got married into a joint family. She was not used to of a big family culture. Does not matter what she was doing, she always heard mean things about herself. After one year of struggling hard to see others happy, she slipped into depression. To support her, her husband started helping her in setting up a new business. She was getting busy and she felt better and confident. (When others are constantly pointing your mistakes you lose confidence) However, she wondered others were still talking. She did not know what wrong she did at that time. Now, she was no longer doing much of house work and she was lesser at home. She did not know the problem.
Well, this is the problem. We focus too much on what others are saying or thinking. They did not have anything better to do and that is why, someone else’s life was their priority. Well, when she realized this, she did not know what to do. Its like if you tell someone do not think of a monkey and you can think of anything else, the person would think of a monkey. But if you tell someone think of an elephant only, it’s easier. So to say, do not think of what others are saying is difficult but to think of what you have to do and think is easier. She needed an elephant to think about. Her elephant was, what I have to do and what I am thinking. So she started focusing on her work and how she could grow her business. She made it big. Her income exceeded her family income. People were still talking but others outside home were appreciating her and slowly her family also appreciated.
She was peaceful, happier and focused. It brought her success and money and happiness. But the first step was to start focusing on herself rather than others. We all need to do the same. Focus on self rather than others.
