I spoke to a lady who was always smiling and peaceful. She was so full of gratitude in everyday life that we all could feel positivity transferring to everyone from her. It felt so peaceful and comforting around her. So I asked her, how she had managed that?
It is very childish to think that if someone is peaceful, they do not have issues of life or they haven’t faced hardships. In fact I would say, they have faced more, they have evolved, learned and realized the beauty of life.
She said the same thing. And then she shared something very beautiful. She shared that pain is inevitable and suffering is our choice. We suffer because we repeat the pain in ourselves and we feel we did not deserve that. But if we start attaching a purpose to that pain, we stop suffering from that. We go to gym and we work hard. It’s painful for the body but we feel happy because we have gained health from that. A mother happily takes all the pain of giving birth to her child and raising the child because she knows what is the purpose of her pain. So she does not suffer.
So whenever there is a painful situation, and you look back, look at what you have gained after that rather than the pain itself. What is left is what you have gained. Pain is over long back. And you shall never suffer.
One gentleman lost his job and for few months he had to struggle a lot. But after that he found a much better one. If he looked back at that jobless time, it was painful. But if he looked back at the better job, it was a beautiful experience.
One lady was in severe depression because she felt she was treated unfairly by her in laws after getting married. Now, they lived separately and it all happened 15 years back. However, she was still full of anger and pain. But when she realized that she got a better life because of all that. Her husband supported her more, she could shift out because of that. If they would have been less bad, they would not have shifted out. So she gained her own life in all that. When she realized this, she was better.
We all have to go through the pain. But no pain comes without a purpose. Do not take it as a Karmic punishment also. May be it is there to give you something better. Find that and you shall never suffer.
