One gentleman approached. He said that he was unable to build good relationships. So when we started talking he accepted that he was passing comments on everyone. So people were staying away from him. But when we further went down, we realized he had many insecurities. He had many complexes since child hood. He wondered if he looked good enough or if his personality was good enough. If his clothes were good enough to look decent etc. How he got these insecurities, well, there came out some child hood issues. He was being judged and scared for all those things and he implemented them through out his life and on others too.
So the questions were:
If they are not wearing good clothes, then what? What right do you have to comment upon it?
If you are wearing good what would make you realize you are wearing good?
Even if someone told you, you look good, is it enough? Wouldn’t you be conscious again? And if not that day then next day?
Where does it end?
Can you live up with the constant stress?
Do you like yourself?
If no, then work on that. Not everyone can ever like you even if you reach the top of the world. Top people even after death are criticized. So you would come and fight from the grave?
So what shall be done?
Stop comparing and start accepting. Look at yourself from your own eyes rather than one million eyes. That’s too much of pressure. Like yourself the way you are. Because this is what making you, you!
After few months of working on himself, he shared that it’s so liberating. He feels so peaceful! And he was wondering, he no longer commented on anyone. He gave peace to everyone. Well, we give what we have. This is what he had now!
