He was on depression medicines for last 20 years. He shared that when he got married, his parents did not talk to him for few months. And after that? Things went back to normal. So why was he still depressed? Because he could not handle the fact that he took a decision and his parents did not support him and they could not talk to him for some time.
She was married for 15 years. Initial one year had been tough as per adjustment per se with her in laws. Then she started living separately with her husband. However, she could not forgive the first year. She could not forget the first year. As a result her health was always declining. She had constant headaches, anxiety attack and many things like that. She was on permanent medication.
I understand few things in life create a very big hurt in our hearts. These issues might keep hurting us for a longer time. But we need to decide for how long we want them to hurt us. Ultimately, one day we have to take a decision to let go!
So what can we do?
First thing take a decision that I would let it go.
Take a decision to forgive everyone.
We need to stop revisiting those incidences again and again.
We need to stop analysing who was wrong and how much.
We need to stop expecting to change the past and make it better.
We need to stop expecting people to come and seek forgiveness. We need to just forgive them in our hearts.
We need to stop expecting others to bend and realize their mistakes. (Even if someone has actually done wrong, they realize also, people do not come and ask. Sometimes during the last days they may still but generally people do not.) But we need to realize how long we would want to wait.
We need to stop judging things from various perspectives and find the right points.
We need to start looking forward in life. We need to start creating the picture of better future rather than better past.
