They had a relationship problem. He was always criticizing his wife. he said that he was making her a better person and he was improving her personality. But in doing so he did not realize that he was breaking her self confidence and eventually their relationship. Finally, when she no longer felt like it, she left. She went through lots of struggles but eventually found her new grounds. He slipped into depression as she had left him and everything else was crumbling around. He did not realize that she could create her own life without him. He thought that she was dependent on him and would always be around.
He did not realize that he had to change himself not others to make his life better. He felt that his life had problems because others needed improvement. But then he realized that the change was needed in him only. He also looked deep down and felt that he was constantly criticizing himself. To be perfect and to create a perfect himself, he was always on toes which
The perfection was in imperfection. The beauty was in the design of everything the way it was. What was perfect for him may be was imperfect for others. He did not realize all these things earlier. So he changed. He accepted everyone and everything. Above all he accepted himself with all the flaws and the mistakes he had done. He also accepted that he did not have to punish himself for that now constantly. Instead he had to make that change. He changed. He was feeling better. he was making things better. If he did not like something, if he could change it he did or else he accepted. He reconciled with his wife too. She always loved him but his constant criticism she could not handle. When it changed and she could see the change, she came back. His work also improved because people found it easy to work with him now.
We do not have to change anyone. We just have to change ourselves. We have to feel more positive and loving and everything else will fall in place.
