One gentleman said that he always feel people bully him. he was being bullied in the school and he was always bullied in office too. Sometimes, to keep the bullies away he ended up doing more work. So he was always scared of life as he felt everyone was bullying him. He was scared that his children also were growing up to bully him as he could feel his wife was also bullying him. he was stuck in this fear which was manifesting him more and more bullies around him. He had already tried being brave and all but he could not over come his fear.
Rule of the life is we get what we give. He was not giving bully energy but he was sending out energy of fear which was attracting him all the wrong things. So I asked him to be kind. To be kind to everyone he meets and to himself. Instead of reprimanding himself, he must be kind. He shall use kind words for himself genuinely and he shall be genuinely kind to everyone he meets. HE shall make an effort to help. HE shifted his focus entirely from being bullied to be kind. It definitely set out a new pattern for him. Within one month (Yes it takes time to start new patterns) He started feeling that things were changing for him. He was being less bullied. He was receiving more smiles and he was more peaceful. gradually he started feeling people were kind to him. Now, it was easy for him to be assertive also in the office. Earlier where he could no longer take a stand for himself, now he could talk. His own acts of kindness kind of gave him a confidence and belief in himself. He started being more peaceful. He started respecting himself more because he knew he was doin good. Earlier he felt he lacked something, now he felt he was doing so much.
Not to mention that karma always returns, so he his reward also started coming. he could feel the kindness in everyone. It’s like the outer world is a reflection of inner world. When he was feeling kind rather than fear, everyone around him started reflecting kindness.
Do not try to change others, make yourself better and things will become better for you.
