Few researches prove what kids need and what kids want. In one research parents were asked what did they want and they had a list f cars, houses and things like that. Kids mostly had a list which contained time with family, parents approval, to see mother smiling etc.
In another research scientists wanted to know why some kids smoked and indulged in drugs and alcohol and why some not. So the reason was the difference in family time and stress. Kids who grew up in a family where parents spent lots of time with them did not smoke and got into drugs. They were happy within and they did not want to indulge into anything else for superficial happiness.
I am sure there must be 100s of such researches. Human beings are nothing without emotions. And emotional needs are as important as physical needs. Emotional needs have to be satisfied equally. For kids these needs center around parents. For them, parents are their world.
They need toys to play with but they want that their parents should play those toys with them. If we need happy generations, we need to create happy generations and that is possible only if we can spend happy time with them. They can give what they have received.
Being a parent I know what all we have to sacrifice to raise what we really desire. We actually need to put them first for everything. How long is this put them first, I cannot answer. May be till the time they start deciding for themselves. Till the time we decide for themselves they have to be put first.
Be a happy parent, raise a happy child. Create a bond of love and believe me it’s all worth.
