She had been married for 10 years and she hated her husband. When ever she thought of him, she felt angry and mad. She said that her husband always said that he loved her despite of she hating him. He always garnered more sympathy from everyone by saying so. So I asked her, if she felt the same way that he loved her. Her answer was negative. She said that she knew somewhere he also hated her but he was pretending to love her to gain everyone’s sympathy.
So I asked her, what did she want? Though she hated him at that point of time because of so many things which had happened between them and their families, deep down she always had that desire to create a happy home and happy family. But she did not know, if that was possible with the man she was living. Divorce was never an option she she had to make best out of it.
So first thing she had to do was to think of good moments. When we keep thinking of bad things, our mind replicates them more. We are giving more energy to bad things, so mind expands those further. So instead of giving our focus to bad things which have happened, we need to reverse it and start focusing on good things, so that they can start growing in mind and then in life.
Next thing she had to do was, tell herself that she had a good relationship, she loved him and they will have a great life together. Instead of telling herself things like I am so angry at him, he has messed up my life, my future is dark with him etc. (We all say such things in our head when we do not like something)
In few days, she could feel different about her husband and when she started feeling different, she could feel the difference in his behavior too. Their relationship started improving and in few months it was in a great shape.
So for a great relationship, first you have to feel great about it. Whether it is personal relationship or professional. Before we talk our energies talk and that comes from our feelings. So have positive feeling to create positive vibes for each other. Physically, the relationship will take a shape accordingly.
