One lady contacted, she was going through the low self-esteem issues. When I asked her the reasons, gradually she started sharing that because of it, she was having relationship problems too. Then she shared that after she got married, her husband started pointing out lots of mistakes in her. For everything, he would criticize her and tell her, how badly she performed. Soon she lost confidence and kind of herself. She grew up in a pampered environment and she had never even stepped in the kitchen. So she was bound to do mistakes. So when I spoke to her husband, he accepted and agreed. HE was very proud of himself for making her a better homemaker. But what about better human being? He lost her.
So I asked him if your child is stepping into the kitchen for the first time, how would you act? In an honest discussion, he shared that he would motivate his child and encourage with love. If he would point out mistakes all the time, his child would lose confidence and what makes him think his wife was different? He realized his mistake and also realized that his all this behavior has added lots of negativity in his relationship. He tried justifying and all but that was like again fighting the darkness. So he simply started giving her lots of love and finally in some time, her heart started opening up for him and their relationship, her personality, everything improved.
One gentleman shared that when he was small, he was told that he would face many hurdles in office and he would not grow up beyond a certain financial level. So I asked him, how did he over come that? He shared that he simply started working very hard with honesty.
One gentleman who was the patriarch of a big family and had four generations living in his house shared his secret. He said that whenever something happened, he filled up himself with love. He never filled up himself with any negativity for anyone in his family. This made his family trust him a lot and they followed.
For everything, I felt the secret was fill up everything with love and positivity. It can solve anything. Does now matter how dark is the room, you light one small lamp and the darkness goes away. So we need to bring in that light. We do not have to remove darkness. For everything be the carrier of light. Spread your light and every darkness will disappear in your path.
