I am a mother of two 2.5 year old girls. Twins! Yes! Everyone gets excited when they see two naughty girls running around. Yeah, wherever I go, I gather that attention and when someone approaches me, they hide behind me suddenly. I do not have a choice. I had to leave everything behind to take care of them. My husband has always been around to support me. Infact for last 3 years, we both are working from home. Do we have a choice? Whether we want to sleep, we are unwell, we cannot stand, we want to crash in bed, we want to take out time for ourselves, we have to work or anything else. We have no choice. Our girls come first. If I want to crash and I know they are hungry, they have to be taken care of. If I have to go or there is something, every work has to be postponed because it’s their lunchtime. We choose a restaurant where they can enjoy their time too, in a way has a play area. Or we may simply go to a play area on our outing. there are no more dates, there are family dates and family hugs.
Do we have a choice? No, in fact, we love it and happily do it. Then why do we think, we have a choice when it comes to parents? Taking care of them, their needs, respecting them, loving them? Why can’t we feel they are a blessing too? When kids are born, we feel they are a blessing. So are the parents. Like taking care of kids and seeing them smiling is my need, my necessity, taking care of parents, to see them smiling is my necessity too. They have done so much, they have a right to be taken care of, they have a right to be peaceful after working for their whole life. How do we feel, when after a hectic day, we come back home and think of sleeping and resting and suddenly a fight starts? We feel most terrible. All we wanted was to be peaceful and de-stress. Now, take it as a long day for parents, they have had a long day, very hectic, they could not stand, what would they want? A cup of tea to relax and someone just telling them, please take rest you had a long day. That’s what they need. To sit and have tea and relax and looking forward to sleep rather than wondering to figure out their day and settle some petty issues.
take care of your parents, it’s for your own self. Your need. You will feel better when you do that. If your kids are a blessing, they are a blessing too.
Just a tip: Whatever you are doing for kids or have done, try doing the same for them. Accept them as your child instead of seeing them as grown-ups, it would be easier emotionally.
