Almost a decade back, I was sitting hurt and dejected as my trust had been broken and I was sitting alone wondering if anyone would help me. Then I kept waiting and wondered who would come for my help. After waiting for few months I realized, I can sit like this and turn into a rock but still I would be same. So if I really want to be helped, I need to get up and do something for myself. It might be small but something would happen for me. I got up and frantically started moving my all the limbs and head like someone is trying to come out of drowning water. Finally I saw surface and I could breathe fresh air. It took lots of efforts to learn to swim on my own and so many times i was about to drown, but with constant efforts learned it.
Often we depend on others as this is how we grow up. Our parents keep doing everything for us and without realizing that it was only to the point we were physically incapable, we grow up. When we learn to walk we are left on floor, when we learn to eat, we are left with food to eat on our own. When we are able to handle emotions, we are sent to schools to learn further and this is how we keep growing up. However, we know in the back of our mind that someone is watching for us and if we would get hurt, we would be taken care of. We do not realize that back up is also there for the limited time. Eventually there would be no one to fall back on. We have to take care of ourselves and many others around us.
Problem happens, when we fall and we feel there is a back up and we do not find any back up. There is a purpose for that. So that we can learn to stand up on our own. Once we learn to stand on our own, we would find that everyone was always there just that we had to become strong or else we would just been crawling.
If you really want to be strong, get up and learn to walk on your own. Do not wait for someone else to come and hold your hand, give you support and show you the direction. If you would lose way, you would find some other way. If you would fall, you would get up. But all this would be better than getting hurt and not doing anything. No disappointments, no blame game but lots of strength!
