She was always worried about others. She grew up with a mindset of what others are thinking of her. As she herself answered that question, it was mostly negative. To make that answer positive, she did few more things but again the answer was negative. BEcause she could not generate positive answers, she generate negative answers for others too. She would create negative image of others in mind like they are arrogant, egoist, bad etc.
She did not realize that she was stuck in her mind in all this.
Now, the big question was why did she get negative answers on behalf of others in her mind? Because this is what she was thinking of herself. The answers she created for others were from within.
So to improve everything in her mind, what she had to do was improve what she was thinking of herself.
For that she had to do few things:
1. Overcome her fear
2. Love herself
3. Accept herself the way she was
4. Change her intentions ( Like from impressing others to actually doing things)
5. Like others the way they were
6. Let go off the thought that what others are thinking of her
7. Stop judging herself
8. Think good of herself
9. Improving her actions and behaviors
10. open up more to people rather than just being stuck in mind.
When she changed what she was thinking of herself, she could change what she was thinking of others.
Often we do not spend much time in thinking about who we are, what are we doing, what we want to do, where we want to reach, who we want to be.
If we can more time of self analysis questions rather than self destructive question like what others are thinking of me, how are others behaving and doing, we can achieve much more peace and much more personally in life.
