Met a lady in early 40s and she was really happy. A look at her and you would feel nothing can be wrong in her life. She was independent, smart, courageous, living life on her own terms and there was always a smile on her face. Who so ever met her kind of felt jealous. So I asked her, what’s your secret?
She said that without those sorrows, I couldn’t be happy today! She shared her story!
She got married very early in life, and her marriage turned out to be very painful. He was verbally and physically abusive. For four years she lived in constant fear. If she would eat, he would say she is eating on him, and if she wouldn’t he would say, she wanted him to go to jail or something like that. For everything she had to hear something and she did not know how to breathe. When they got divorced she did not know if it was her better future. After she recovered from the loss of relationship and all this mental trauma, she got into another relationship, which also did not work out. After two years, again she parted her ways. But she never piled up bitterness against men or in general. She said that the best human being she has seen is her father and he is also a man. So how could she hate men?
She was never no to having relationship after that but was more careful in her choice. But the way she was happy, because she had accepted her life and she did not want to spend it crying over people who were not worthy of her, people were feeling jealous. Happiness is always desired and infectious. We all want to be happy and somehow, we do not have courage to be happy. We make a wrong choice. We keep things which have hurt us and we ignore which have given us happiness in our heart. If we reverse what we keep, we would be happier. Life shouldn’t be complained about, life is to be grateful for. We would get everything, good and bad, welcome life with open arms and be happy about it. You value good because you have experienced bad. Without that, you will not experience good also. Truly said, without those sorrows, we wouldn’t have been happy!
