Once a gentleman wanted to do a business with one particular friend. He tried asking but the friend did not agree. So out of anger, he started cursing his friend and his friend lost his job in sometime and suffered financially a lot. So this gentleman started getting into guilt for cursing his friend.
One gentleman had an extra marital affair after 30 years of married life. His wife was cursing him always. After two years he suffered a heart attack and now, she was suffering always for cursing him.
One gentleman had a very weak personality in college. So his friends always made fun of him. So he always developed a fear that he would never get a nice girl to get married to. IF he would she would leave him. (It kept happening for couple of years, till he solved what was inside him.
No running away, no guilt can solve what is inside us. We may try that i am not thinking about it. We may shrug it off saying it does not matter now. We may find 100 justifications to handle that. But until we solve it, we can never get over it.
First of all why to curse anyone or ownself. It is just taking out anger. Do we actually want that person to go through what we are saying. I remember once a gentleman saying for his wife (As she had been bad to his mother) that she would realize this when her own daughter in law would do this to her. So I asked, it means you want your son also to have a bad relationship like you have. He was shocked and started crying. He said that without realizing I was actually cursing my next generation. Exactly we do that.
Second thing, whatever wrong we have done, sit and talk and solve it. We need to also know few things:
We all do wrong sometimes intentionally and sometimes unintentionally. We all pay back also. But now, when we have learned we have to stop repeating anything like that. Also what can we do to heal it (Love heals) Let’s say, by mistake you caused an injury to a person. So you sitting at home won’t solve it. You can go and apply medicine. This is what needs to be done to solve it. If it’s any fear, face it, do it. The gentleman when looked at himself from own perspective and understood that he did not have a weak personality, infact he had many gifts, he was able to recover from it and create a beautiful relationship.
Face yourself with love and compassion!
