Common things:
Wives complaining about their husbands taking our their anger on them.
Servants complaining about employers taking out anger on them unnecessarily.
Kids complaining about mothers taking out their angers on them.
Men confessing that they have taken out their frustration rather than shouting at actual mistake
Employers accepting same
Mothers accepting same!
There must be so many scenarios like these. I hear from so many wives and kids who are holding on to the old issues where they have suffered because of some one else’s anger in the family which had scarred their relationship forever.
We have that tendency. If someone is more powerful than us, we keep quiet and we take out all our power on someone who is weak. One was not ready to accept this. So I asked, if there is a servant who replies back and there is a one who never says anything, just accepts whatever you are saying then on whom you would shout more? Reluctantly he accepted the one who keeps quiet will listen more. We will be scared of saying anything to the one, who always gives back. So the nice one suffers.
Sometimes, we take someone’s niceness as their weakness but it is not so. If someone is nice, we shall respect that and love that. So that we can give an opportunity for something nice to spread around.
Another thing, anger, frustration, stress, they are own demons. They have come into us because of us, we need to handle them. Either meditate, talk it out, counsel self or anything. But handle them yourself. Do not feel powerful by taking it out on weaker ones or nicer ones. You are just becoming further weak. You are not gaining strength by sucking it out of others. It is like being a human parasite. When you start gaining strength by draining out others.
Learn to give strength to others. Learn to support others. And do not do that by making them feel down. Do that, just spread some happiness around. Spread some love around and you will see how happiness spreads in your life.
