They had been married for twenty years. He was disrespecting her, talking in an abusive manner about her in front of everyone and she always listened to him quietly. She felt that he loved her and that is why everything is acceptable. One day her friend called up and sought her help for her daughter’s wedding. She requested her to stay there for few days to support her in shopping and wedding preparation. When she went there, she saw how with respect and love her friend’s husband was treating her. She realised that if her husband would have loved her he would not have treated the way he was treating her. She saw the difference between love and hatred. She realized that somewhere her husband hated her but for what? When she came back she asked her husband if he loved her and he said that no one could love her. Then she asked if he hated her, he did not say yes but he said that she deserved that. She knew, why this all was happening. Finally she asked for divorce and created a life of her own. She took up a job after that.
Love, trust and respect are three pillars of any relationship. Without anyone of them, relationship will not survive. It may look like from outside like a relationship but it will not be one. Eventually the facade will fall off and everything will fall apart.
So
Love your partner, that’s prime.
Respect your partner as a partner as well as a human being.
Trust him or her. Trust his/her intentions for you. Trust that they want your best
Maintain that trust and respect yourself also. Return that trust and respect and respect the respect you receive from partner.
Relationships travel a long way to become strong. They have to go through lots of ups and downs. Sometimes threads are very delicate on tough terrains. We need to hold on to them with great care. We need to nurture them with love everyday. If our intentions are right then everything which will happen will be right.
