First of all, I want to tell all that we all are doing our best and we could not have done better. We are doing whatever we can to live a good and happy life. We all are putting in lots of efforts every day in our relationship, for our home, work, kids and health. We are doing all we can do. SO we all deserve a nice pat on the back for that. However, sometimes, few things are inevitable in life and they happen which make us regret our decisions or doing for the whole of life.
One gentleman who was in huge debts because of some business decision always wondered what did I do, every day he was telling himself that if he would not have been over ambitious in business, life would have been different for him.
The one who went through the divorce always kept calculating that if he would have supported his wife more may be they would have been together.
The one who had lost his child in an accident always wondered if he would have dropped himself instead of sending along with his friend, may be he would have saved the accident.
There must be thousands of stories where we all are trying to revisit the past and make it better or change it. We can never change it. Mainly it is coming from guilt and feeling that I did not do it better.
However, if we really want to do better, we need to start focusing on better future. We need to start creating it. If we keep holding onto the past, we are not letting it go and we are strengthening it every day. Do we want that? What we actually want is to have a better future. I can recall a couple whom I had met a few years back. They were always fighting over the miscarriage and blaming each other. The husband was blaming her for not taking care of herself and she was blaming him for not being supportive. Finally, when they let go off old emotions and started focusing on future along with a grateful heart for a new born, they were blessed with a child soon. But that could happen only when they started focusing on future. So what can we do?
Forgive yourself and everyone else in past.
Forgive the past itself and forgive life.
Think how you want your life in future.
Express your gratitude to Universe and God for creating that life for you.
Start thinking and talking about future more than past.
