A gentleman who had estranged relationship with his wife for 10 years, wanted to get back together with her for his children’s sake. They had reached to a point that either they would divorce or he had to take a decision to do everything to get his family back. His wife had given him clear notice that she wanted a divorce as she did not want to live like that further in her life. However, whenever he visited her, he was always full of hatred and anger and what all she had done to him in past 10 years like not allowing him to meet his children, sending his gifts back etc. Without forgiving her and himself also, he could not see her face, then how would he make an effort to live together?
Up til this point he was just judging that she few bad things to him. First time he sat down and thought why she did all those things? She did not allow him to meet his children because whenever he was going there he only talked bad about her. She sent the gifts back, because she did not want her children to be dependent on gifts. He started crying and accepted his mistakes. After that it was very easy for him to put efforts to get the relationship back on track. Though it took more than a year to heal wounds and bring it to an amicable understanding, but it worked for everyone.
If by trying to understand each other, such kind of relationship issue can be resolved, lot of others also can be if we start making an effort everyday. Whether it is between parents and children or between husband and wife or between friends. Understanding will not happen on it’s own. We have to make an effort to understand each other and that’s when we start understanding why behind every pain, anger, dialogues, comments or silences or smiles.
Once we are able to surpass the judgement, we would see the love flowing in all the relationships.
Create a happy and loving one.
