One 42 years old lady, who had just been through divorce was crying badly. She said that I followed everyone. I did whatever was asked of me. My mother said that follow your mother in law and I obeyed her blindly. I obeyed my husband blindly. They said that do not do a job, focus at home. be a home maker, I did that. Whatever i earned I gave to them. Whatever my mother gave me, I gave it to them. Still I have landed into all this. I never cared for my own desires. i found my happiness in keeping them happy. Still no one seems to be happy with me, that is why my husband has left me. Though my mother in law tried interfering in his decision, but to no avail. She said she would prefer to live with me, but ultimately she went to her son. i am left all alone in this age with no career, and family. My parents are not alive and I cannot go and live with my brother. What shall i do. So where are you living right now? I am at my brothers place but indirectly he keeps asking what would I do next and when am I shifting. Everyday is becoming a burden. My husband said that i am a dumb lady who just keeps taking orders. I felt bad for her, no need to discuss the point that he took her for granted and he thought her dedication and love was being dumb. He forgot to look at her desires but wasn’t she responsible for this too. because she presented herself like this, that she had no desires of her own. So no point in discussing about that. So the next question was, how were you at the college? She broke down further. She was a college champ and many guys followed her. So you need become that again. that was real you, not this. Why do you have to follow everyone? So that they can be happy? We do not know what would make us happy, so how can someone else make us happy. You kept making efforts and this made them unhappy too. You need to think, who you are and that would make you perfect. We are designed by God in a perfect way. However, we are fed with stupid thoughts of becoming perfect and we lose our perfectness. We do not have to become something else to gain other’s approval. We are not created by creator for that. We just have to find out who we are and we need to become that. She kept thinking and after one week, she said that i am a very good cook. Infact lots of neighbors and friends take recipes from me. So she started posting her invented recipes and soon she started receiving responses. Her major break through happened when a friend asked her to present cookery classes in his school. She got a job now. From there she started a new journey. After that she was always busy as she was being invited for many events. Soon she started her catering business too.
We are created by the creator and we shall know who we are. What are our skills. What people tell us is not important. What we think is more important. We do not have to become perfect. We are already perfect. We just have to make sure we do not lose our perfectness. have faith in yourself. You cannot have that faith until you know who you are. If you will keep evaluating yourself from others perspective you will never get to know your own worth. No human being has the power to judge God’s creation, so no one can actually find our true worth. So trust yourself and who you are and be yourself.
