Often Our lives revolve around one thing, what others are thinking of us. We like others to feel good about us or we do not want others to feel bad about us. We change our actions or behaviors to impress others. Often we start living a fake and stressful life because we are worried about what others are thinking of us. So many times we don’t even know the people whim we are trying ti impress. Once and old lady said what would people say and I asked her, who are these people? She tried speaking and then she kept quiet. She said society and who makes this society? She had no answer. We make this society and we are the people. Once a lady went into clinical depression because she could not manage the perception about herself in her office. On her promotion, her opponent said that she was sleeping with the boss and that is why she got the promotion. As per the lady, she did not do anything like that and she was given the promotion on genuine grounds. But negative words always spread faster and soon everyone was talking about this. This lady could not face her peers and stopped going to office. Without job, her family also started questioning her and she slipped into a deep depression where she did not want to face anyone. One fine day she started talking about ending her life where her family woke up and decided to support her. The only thing that helped lady in coming out of this grave situation was by setting herself free from the judgement. She realized, she had not done anything wrong and she was punishing herself for what someone else had done out of jealousy. When she set herself free from others judgement, she was able to work on herself again. She found a new job and then she could move on in her life.
We need to remember few things:
It is a human nature to judge and form opinion
We like to form opinion on the basis of limited information without looking at the bigger picture
Often it is based on past experiences and perceptions rather than current picture
We do not realize how much we are hurting others while judging
We have no control over own thoughts, we just make an effort to control mostly and we waste our energy in managing others thoughts
We ,want others to act like us and also think as per us ( Often we would hear that how dare he could even think like this)
We can set ourselves free by having self trust and belief. By trusting own actions and intentions. The moment we would lose trust on self, we would be seeking others approval and then we would be victim of their judgment.
We need to set ourselves free from others judgement so that we can truly lead a free life.
