A gentleman started his business against his father’s choice. His father had been in job all his life and as per him that was the safest way to live. The son did not agree. The son failed first time and his father scolded him. The son kept failing for few years and every time father would come make him realize his mistake of quitting job. Poor son, who was already frustrated, disappointed and stressed about his failures got further demoralized. He got into depression. At the time when he needed more support and encouragement from his father, he got a bashing. His father seeked professional help for his son as he thought that his son got into depression because of constant failures. However, the son shared that it was his father’s words, his disapproval which breaks him every time. He has reached to a point that before doing anything he gets fear, what would his father say. Because of those fears, he has lost confidence and he does not feel like meeting anyone or doing anything. When his father heard this, he could not bear this and this created a bigger rift. The father took it on his ego that to an outsider, his son has said such words. Finally the boy left home and started living at his friends place. There from home he started a small photography work and eventually he succeeded. After 2 years, he went home when he could cal himself successful and his father this time accepted that he had done a mistake by treating his son the way he had treated. After seven years, ( 5 years of initial business struggle and 2 years of success work) he realized his mistake that his son could not grow because he did not support him. Infact he kept breaking his confidence. The distance made him realize his mistake. He accepted that when his son left job against his father’s choice, he had taken that on his ego. Time healed the relationship and wounds.
What stops us from accepting our mistakes?
The big word is EGO or sometimes we are in oblivion. Many times when others tell us, instead of taking action or atleast analyzing, we keep taking it as a hit on ego and we keep denying our mistakes. But that stops us from growing. In the above case the gentleman could not grow as a father and as a human being. However, when we are able to accept our mistakes, we learn from them, we start growing in life and we become wiser. This was a relationship mistake, but there could be many mistakes like professional, personal or anything. never hesitate from accepting mistakes, Never stop yourself from correcting things. Never stop yourself from apologizing. When we seek forgiveness it is a big relief. A very big burden gets off our chest. We all do mistakes but without accepting them, we live under their burden. We do not have to.
