She started living in with her boyfriend against her parent’s will for her love for him. After living in for one year, he came one day and said that he loves someone else and he wants a separation. She could not believe what was happening. She felt that she could not go back to her parent’s place as she had taken a step against them and this man was leaving her. what could she do. Generally first thought comes in such scenario is to die and she also thought. But back in her childhood her mother had taught her that life is precious and it is God’s gift, we must value it. To even think of committing suicide is like turning down God’s gift. She did not commit suicide and did not go back to her parents. However, her brother heard about her and they asked her to come and live with the family again. She came back but she was feeling embarrassed and humiliation. She stopped talking to anyone and eventually she slipped into a very severe depression. Her family thought she was missing her ex love and she had many reasons which they were in oblivion to. One day, she opened social networking site and saw her boyfriend’s pictures with his current girl and she wondered. She was dying here, sitting in a corner, damaging her life, her relationship with her family and for whom? For a man who is enjoying his life with someone else. Is it worth? Other might have told her this thing many times but that was the moment of realization. She came came out of her slumber after months. She got up, took shower, had nice dinner with her family (to their surprise) and she slept. She started working on her relation with her family.
She had to work on few things:
1. She had said lots of bad words to her parents while shifting in with her boyfriend. So she had to work hard to gain back their love and trust especially her father’s.
2. She had to work on building her sibling bond with her brother again.
3. She had to overcome shame in her extended family as everyone talked about her live in relationship. ( Which is a big taboo in Indian society)
4. All this while her professional life was ignored and she had to work again on building her career.
It took her two years to pull her life back and she came out must stronger and better. She became an asset to her family as she was supporting them financially too now.
Life changes, nothing is permanent. We have to keep creating life and self again and again. We have to be reborn again and again. Sitting and wasting precious life for someone who has left is never worth. We need to realize it. Sometimes, concept of first love is over hyped by ,movies. Things happen and they would keep happening but we need to keep standing like a rock. Life is not easy but we are here to learn to live with all the challenges. When we learn that, we come out better and stronger. Light from within shine. We become an asset to self and to the world. Before that we are dependent on others but once we have over come challenges, we learn to support others. That is how circle of life is designed.
